#197: How Do We Keep Our Marriage A Priority?

Callers Brent & Robyn are a married couple navigating the effects of past trauma on their relationship. They are committed to each other's individual healing process and creating a safe space for one another to process their emotions. When trauma and codependency collide, true connection and healing emerge with honest communication and a commitment to each other's growth. "When you come into the relationship with trauma and you come into the relationship with shame, you're naturally going to try to use each other as medication to solve those things. But if you're both committed to this relationship, then in many ways, you're both committed to each other's individual healing process, and you're committed to being an asset to their individual healing process." Brent and Robyn entered their marriage with a lack of understanding of how their individual traumas and past relationships would affect their marriage. They soon realized that past traumas, even when openly discussed, still caused trauma and changed their behavior. This caused disharmony in their marriage. To address this, they realized they were both codependent and needed to do their own individual work. After Brent attended a men's retreat, he began to work on himself and recognize that his value comes from God. He now understands that Robyn needs him to not depend on her for his value, but to be a strong partner who can help her with her individual healing process. In this episode: 1. How do you keep your marriage a priority in the face of trauma and codependency? 2. How can couples navigate each other's triggers without creating further tension and disconnection? 3. How can partners commit to each other's individual healing process and support each other in creating a safe space for vulnerability? // SUBMIT A QUESTION + SCHEDULE A CALL // We would love to answer any questions you have about addiction, trauma, recovery, healing, and anything you can think of. Click the link below to submit your question (and if you're open to being a guest on the podcast, you can schedule your call time as well)! We're also curious to know if there are any topics you'd like to hear us discuss on the podcast. https://www.therapybros.com/call-in-and-ask-a-question/ Send mail to: Therapy Brothers, 40 W Cache Valley Blvd Ste 3c, Logan, UT 84341 // Brannon Patrick LCSW | "The Expert" // Website: https://www.brannonpatrick.com Therapy Practice: https://therapyutah.org/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/brannon_patrick Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ExpertBrannon YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/bpatricklcsw // Tyler Patrick LMFT | "The Wandering Therapist" // 15-Minute Free Consultation Call: https://lovestrong.com/consultation-call Therapy Practice: https://lovestrong.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/the.wandering.therapist Facebook: https://facebook.com/love.strong.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXaR4084r-Z_251xVdoyMFQ // SUPPORT OUR CHANNEL // Newsletter: https://www.therapybros.com/subscribe Donations: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=XQUZPJ6QNC22C Theme Music By: Max Wardle Music Books & Audiobooks We Recommend (We earn a small percentage from your purchase with any of the books links on this page): https://lovestrong.com/most-impactful-books/ // OUR COURSES // Boundary Bootcamp: https://www.brannonpatrick.com/Boundarybootcamp Pornography Addiction Recovery Kickstart: https://lovestrong.com/courses/overcome-pornography-addiction/ // OUR EVENTS // Radiant Dawn | Women's Retreat: https://radiantdawn.org Rising Son | Men's Retreat: https://risingson.org Vibrant Love | Couple's Retreat: https://vibrantlove.org Reclaim Your Heart Conference: https://reclaimyourheart.net/conference