#191: How Can My Wife And Children See Me For Something Other Than The Things I've Done?

Caller Larry's Question: "We’re almost a year since D-Day why do I continue to lie and gaslight my wife when all she wants is honesty?" Larry is a married man who has had a series of betrayals in his marriage over the past 15 years. He recently had a 15-month physical affair and has been seeing a CSAT since August to work on recovering his marriage. He is looking for his wife and children to see him differently for the things he has done. Larry is looking for validation and connection from others, stemming from his childhood where his father was a tough critic and his mother was a confidant. He is now aware that he needs to look within himself to answer the questions he has and let go of needing validation from others. In this episode, you will learn the following: 1. Why we often feel the need to escape. 2. The impact that our parents have on us growing up and how that contributes to our patterns of behavior. 3. How important it is to receive love and validation when we are children. // SUBMIT A QUESTION + SCHEDULE A CALL // We would love to answer any questions you have about addiction, trauma, recovery, healing, and anything you can think of. Click the link below to submit your question (and if you're open to being a guest on the podcast, you can schedule your call time as well)! We're also curious to know if there are any topics you'd like to hear us discuss on the podcast. https://www.therapybros.com/call-in-and-ask-a-question/ Send mail to: Therapy Brothers, 40 W Cache Valley Blvd Ste 3c, Logan, UT 84341 // Brannon Patrick LCSW | "The Expert" // Website: https://www.brannonpatrick.com Therapy Practice: https://therapyutah.org/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/brannon_patrick Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ExpertBrannon YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/bpatricklcsw // Tyler Patrick LMFT | "The Wandering Therapist" // 15-Minute Free Consultation Call: https://lovestrong.com/consultation-call Therapy Practice: https://lovestrong.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/the.wandering.therapist Facebook: https://facebook.com/love.strong.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXaR4084r-Z_251xVdoyMFQ // SUPPORT OUR CHANNEL // Newsletter: https://www.therapybros.com/subscribe Donations: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=XQUZPJ6QNC22C Theme Music By: Max Wardle Music Books & Audiobooks We Recommend (We earn a small percentage from your purchase with any of the books links on this page): https://lovestrong.com/most-impactful-books/ // OUR COURSES // Boundary Bootcamp: https://www.brannonpatrick.com/Boundarybootcamp Pornography Addiction Recovery Kickstart: https://lovestrong.com/courses/overcome-pornography-addiction/ // OUR EVENTS // Radiant Dawn | Women's Retreat: https://radiantdawn.org Rising Son | Men's Retreat: https://risingson.org Vibrant Love | Couple's Retreat: https://vibrantlove.org Reclaim Your Heart Conference: https://reclaimyourheart.net/conference