How to have better sex | Esther Perel, Emily Nagoski & more

People are having less sex than ever. 3 experts explain the keys to maintaining a passionate relationship. We live in a paradoxical era where despite the sexual revolution, people are having less sex. Misconceptions about desire lie at the heart of this paradox. Desire is often thought of as a “sparky” force that strikes people spontaneously, such as when they catch a glimpse of someone attractive. But that’s only one kind of desire, as sex educator Emily Nagoski told Big Think. Another type is responsive desire, which is what you feel as a reaction to sexual stimuli, like touch, physical closeness, or sexual contact. Building a strong relationship requires fostering desire in some form, and being willing to communicate with your partner about how to best make that happen. Those conversations might be awkward at first, but, as these Big Think experts explain, they can be immensely rewarding. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Chapters: 0:00 What’s wrong with sex? 0:31 Erotic desire vs. intimacy 1:40 Marriage does not have to kill sex 2:49 Strong sexual connection: Why some people have it 5:00 What ruins sexual connection? 5:56 More sex vs. better sex 6:29 The #1 reason couples seek sex therapy 8:19 How often, how hard, how long, how many? 9:08 Talking to your partner about sex Listen To This Next: Adam Grant's #1 phrase to unlock potential The science of super longevity Beat anxiety with the most addictive experience on Earth ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Go Deeper with Big Think: ►Become a Big Think Member Get exclusive access to full interviews, early access to new releases, Big Think merch and more ►Get Big Think+ for Business Guide, inspire and accelerate leaders at all levels of your company with the biggest minds in business ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ About Big Think | Smarter Faster™ ► Big Think The leading source of expert-driven, educational content. With thousands of videos, featuring experts ranging from Bill Clinton to Bill Nye, Big Think helps you get smarter, faster by exploring the big ideas and core skills that define knowledge in the 21st century. Get Smarter, Faster.... With Episodes From The Worlds Biggest Thinkers. Follow The Podcast And Turn On The Notifications!! Share This Episode If You Found It Valuable Leave A 5 Star Review Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices